There go most of my plans. No long walks while we still have a gorgeous summer. My routine was completely off balance. I had to figure out how to get to work, managing some pain and discomfort, and make sure I had enough time to do things at a much slower pace. So clearly the 3 positive things challenge wasn't going to hold up for me, right?
Hmmm... Maybe not!
- Don't dwell - sometimes easier said than done, but I had to shift my thinking when I felt the urge to whine or bemoan all the things I wasn't going to be able to do for a while. Instead, I had to focus on what I could do. Maybe it meant tackling something I was otherwise procrastinating about. No more excuses of running errands, going for a walk, or vigorously cleaning my house! Sometimes applying those mental brakes can help you shift your thoughts from the negative to the slightly more positive.
- Be even kinder - to myself that is. Of course I could have been thinking about all the ways I wasn't healing fast enough or maybe I should have been pushing through the pain a little more. Instead, I took a steadying breath and reminded myself of the importance of listening to my body and what cues it was giving me. I had to say 'no' to a few things but instead of laying on the self-guilt, I had to exercise some gentle TLC.
- Slow down - I had to shift my expectations. When we're stressed and harried, we're also causing ourselves pain. Just by physically and mentally slowing down, I felt like I had more patience. This self-care is important, even when we're not physically forced to slow down because of an injury, but something I want to practice daily.
- Continue the 3 positive things! It may be easy to forget this practice when things aren't going our way, but even small incidents that throw us off balance shouldn't throw us off our game! There were many beautiful moments mixed into the ones that weren't so wonderful - like a partner who goes out of their way to help when you're feeling low, or the satisfaction of reading a really good book while you rest.
- Find something to learn from the experience. For me, this was another reminder of the importance of caring for my body. If we step up and out of the experience for a moment, we can listen to what the experience is telling us.
What helps you maintain a more positive spirit when things aren't going your way? What have you tried? What works the best for you?