Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. –Lucile Ball
On a day when we celebrate our society’s imperative to have love (and shun all those who are
In my experience, I’ve seen the challenges that can occur for people who seek to fill the void within themselves through external means. This can take many forms; sometimes we seek comfort in material things like buying stuff and indulging in food, but it can also become quite harmful when we turn to patterns of destructive behaviors or relationships that become unhealthy. Filling our soul with stuff is fleeting – the shine of a new toy fades quickly. Expecting others to make us happy will always leave us feeling disappointed.
Loving ourselves isn’t a thing you just achieve. It won't work even if you wake up one day and say, "Self. I love you today!" It’s a process – a journey. It takes practice and sometimes even huge amounts of acceptance and self-forgiveness as we examine our flaws! Increasing self-love occurs through things we can do for ourselves and ways we think, so shifts in both attitude and actions.
So, I urge everyone to take care of themselves this Valentine’s Day and every day!
Some of the things you can do to take care of yourself:
- Take five minutes to breath and reflect on everything you accomplished today
- Treat yourself to a massage
- Take a long bath
- Find a quiet place to read a book
- Eat a healthy meal with a lot of fresh ingredients
- Exercise and stretch
- Take up a new hobby that brings you joy
- Don’t skip meals and drink plenty of water
- Turn off your emails
- Play with your children
- Just play!
- Go outside and get some fresh air
- Accept your quirks – they make you interesting
- Forgive your mistakes – they’ll pass
- Let go and forgive others – you can’t control them anyway