Even the most confident ones among us battle their own quiet despots. Our bodies are hardwired
There’s nothing wrong with a little caution. Sometimes that voice gives us another perspective. We should pay attention to the voice that asks us, “Is this really the right thing to do?” Paying attention when this happens doesn't mean we need to throw away our hopes and dreams. But maybe we need to pay a little more attention to the details. ‘Can I really do this?’ may mean we spend a little more time evaluating what it is we need to accomplish our goals. Is there something specific about your plan that causes you a little concern? Perhaps that is where you focus more of time and resources - flushing out what it is you need and what kind of support could help you.
Pay attention to how loud, frequent, belittling, or crippling that voice becomes. Sometimes we carry that proverbial baggage with us, messages and stories we've heard, created, or been told over time that our saboteur collects and pummels us with when we want to try something new. Friends, family and loved ones that are positive and encouraging can help. Try telling people you really trust about what’s going on for you. I’m sure they’ll have plenty of reasons about why you should and can do whatever it is you’re thinking about! Also breaking down a goal that seems too big into smaller pieces can help you build confidence as you achieve those smaller steps.
But that voice in your head telling you all those reasons why you can’t or shouldn't take on your dreams and goals is really only that – a voice. It doesn't have to have control over your life.
What do you call your saboteur? What does it look like? Think about how it may have helped you in the past, and how has it gotten in your way? How do you or how can you move past it?